It’s so hard to explain a year to a four year old….much less a two year old. Actually…I am having a tough time grasping a year apart. Jakob has been questioning me about just how long Jason will be gone. Time doesn’t mean much to the boys….each day is a new day and counting them down, or realizing how long has passed is beyond them. Jakob understands weeks, but months or a year? He’s not quite there.
So when learning that Daddy was going to be gone for a year, I reached out to my friends with small children and asked them how they were going to help their little ones understand this, or if they had already done it, what they had done in the past. A good friend suggested I get a jar, fill it with 365 pieces of candy, and each day the boys get to pick out one piece and eat it. Eventually the level will go down and they will realize that Daddy should be home soon.
I chose M&M’s for my boys. Jakob’s favourite! Unfortunately, I misjudged how much room 365 M&M’s would take and got jars that are WAY to big! I need to get back to Walmart and get smaller ones…but in the meantime these will do. Jakob and Aiden get very excited when they get up in the morning to head to those jars and chose their one M&M. Jakob declared this morning after eating his “One more day closer to Daddy coming home!” He misses him so much.
I have also been told to find something to look forward to…something in the near future, something in the not so near future, and something in the far future….like Jason coming home for R&R. So for this week it is Cupcake Happy Hour at the bakery, then next week is the Children’s Book Fair, then Thanksgiving, then Christmas, and then Jason possibly coming home in March for Jakob’s birthday.
It’s all working well right now….I also think it is a matter of consistency and keeping things as normal as possible. Wish me luck.
Love Big, Bake Often